Healing and Building Structure

Secret Revealed

After enduring abuse and infidelity for years.
She finally left – with two kids, no money, and no clue what was next.

And rebuilt her life in 6 months,

Now she’s showing other women…

The “Soft, Rarely-Talked-About Structure” That Helped Her;

Secret Revealed

After enduring abuse and infidelity for years.
She finally left – with two kids, no money, and no clue what was next.

And rebuilt her life in 6 months,

Now she’s showing other women…

The “Soft, Rarely-Talked-About Structure” That Helped Her;

This gentle but powerful structure, designed for women who want to feel safe, confident, and in control again, helped Valerie rebuild.

From the desk of,
Valerie Umelo.

Because I have lived it

I was married for 10 years – to a man who mistreated me, cheated on me and broke me down until I had nothing left to give….

Even whilst carrying his child and having kids for him, the abuse didn’t stop. He kept cheating.

He kept hurting me emotionally, physically and mentally and worse of all, I was still left to be the full breadwinner paying all the bills whilst he did nothing…

He would swear that he had changed but that was lies, and they never stopped.

The Moment That Shattered Me

At eight months pregnant with our child, I found out that he had booked a hotel room with another woman. I used the spare key he left and walked in…

And when I confronted him, he told me to get out and showed no remorse…

That was when I realised, I was no longer a wife. I was just a slave in my own life. Even the child I was carrying didn’t deserve his respect…

How I Tried to Fix Him — And Lost Myself

This is the same man who, when we met, had no job, no money, and no clear vision for his life.

I saw potential in him despite him being unemployed. So I coached him, mentored him, paid for his courses, and even rewrote his CV so he could land a good job. And within weeks, he got a job…

I saw potential in him and made it my mission to “help him.”
I even helped him get into a top bank job at a bank so he could make more money and take care of me and our unborn children…

I was invested in making the relationship work. I wanted him to be the provider, especially for my kids, like I saw with my dad growing up. So I poured everything into him.

But what I didn’t know was this: Fixing him would nearly destroy me.

And because I had invested too much…I didn’t want to leave. I stayed, not because I was weak, but I told myself, “Let me just hold on until I’ve at least reaped something.”

The Final Straw

But that day… After the last slap…

 I decided to leave this relationship for good.…

I had given birth and started thinking of leaving.

It was taking a while as I needed to move as far away as possible… 

Then one day, I remember speaking to a female friend of mine to ask about places to stay.

My ex barged in: “Are you talking to a man?” he asked, eyes blazing.

I was terrified, my hands trembling, I said NO…

He still proceeded to accuse me of cheating with another man.

And before I could explain what was happening…

He slapped me so hard that my phone flew and shattered to the wall…

My children were in the next room with the door open but he didn’t care.

Immediately, he wanted to hit me again, I finally snapped, I grabbed a shoe raising it in defense and screamed, “Enough”

He didn’t have the right to hit me again.

I heard him shouting something about going to kill me and I knew I had to get out!

My kids came and asked, “Mom, are you fine?” I said yes.

I picked up my children, packed a few clothes and left the house with tears streaming down my face.

I didn’t know where I was going… but I knew I was never going back.

A New Beginning

(Even Though I Was Scared)

Someone gave me a home to stay in for free (a divine provision I didn’t expect).

The first few weeks were tough.

But it was the first time I felt safe.

I finally was able to rent an apartment and then weeks later, something amazing happened.

Someone gave me money for rent for a few months. She said, “God told me to give you this.” So I stayed there and raised my kids.

And thank God for the person who gave me a place to stay…

She gave me weekly money to feed the kids and never stopped saying “God told me to help you.”

AFTER 2 MONTHS…

I started applying for part-time remote roles and slowly the doors began to open and eventually, I landed multiple consulting jobs—one of them paid £4,000/month.

This allowed me to:

Buy food

Pay School Fees

Gain financial dignity

But even though money was trickling in,  one thing was clear:

Deep down, I still hadn’t healed.

The trauma was still sitting in my chest.

The panic. The low self-worth. The emotional exhaustion.

So I made a decision to fully heal:

I decided to do daily activities to help reshape my mindset, beliefs, regain peace, and build my confidence again.

It took me 6 months of trial and error…

Because I didn’t have a mentor… No therapist, No one to help me become self-reliant again. Just me, my journals and sheer determination.

I tried some things that didn’t work and some that did. I built a daily system of simple mindset tasks, habits and routines.

And eventually, after following my daily system consistently, I began to feel whole again. I started feeling peace, being confident, and started getting my finances back together.

I went from ~~anxious, broke,~~ and ~~emotionally shattered~~…

To peaceful, grounded, confident — and earning again and I started living like the woman I was and even better…

Helping Other Women Rise

I decided to help other women…

And here’s what they are saying about me:

Jessica Monroe

I was stuck in a cycle of self-doubt and negative thinking after a toxic relationship.

I reached out to Valerie because her posts about self-worth and resilience really spoke to me. The biggest shift was learning to set boundaries and prioritize my own happiness.

Today, I have a renewed sense of purpose, and I'm attracting positive relationships into my life. Valerie is the sister and mentor every woman needs; she'll remind you of your strength and help you dream again.

Ashley Carter

Finding Valerie's page and her work made me realize how much trauma I was carrying from years of being in a toxic relationship with a narcissist, and how that trauma was limiting me from reaching my full potential.

She also helped taught me how to release the trauma, reset my life and rebuild my self-confidence and identity so that I could rise again.

Implementing her teachings has impacted my life significantly for the better! And her healing circle provides me the community ! didn't know I needed.

I highly recommend Valerie for women who are looking to heal and thrive after experiencing narcissistic abuse!

Now, I want to help you too…

I want to show you what I did that made me gain back my identity even after going through a toxic relationship.

It doesn’t matter if:

The Promise: What You Will Regain

If you go through the same system I went through…

The Promise: What You Will Regain

If you go through the same system I went through…

I had to read books on trauma, abuse, self-identity, motivation, psychology, and even finance to get myself back…

  I was feeling burned out every single day because I wanted to know what to do to get back on my feet—financially, mentally, and emotionally.

  And I did.

  But the process was very painful, stressful, and financially draining…

  And some of the things I bought were a waste of money…

Which is why I decided to package what I know works—

What I know has worked for me and moved me from someone who suffered anxiety, felt so intimidated, broke, and mentally drained To someone who is confident, has peace within, and is even financially stable.

I’ve packaged everything I know works in

The Healing and Rebuilding Bundle

Who The Bundle is For?

The three phases of healing

The Healing and Rebuilding Bundle is divided into three phases.

And each week, you will go through another phase.

Here’s what each phase represent and what you will become after going through each phase:

Phase 1: Emotional Reset

What you will discover inside here will show you how to calm your mind around the storm you are facing currently…

A glimpse of what you will discover are:

That you aren’t crazy—you’ve just gone through crazy things, and how to use that as fuel to gain back your confidence and peace.
How to move from crazy to being normal again
How to stop judging yourself every time you remember your past
Understanding the body-mind connection so you heal after the trauma you went through
How to move from guilt and fear and experience rest inside of you
My 3-step strategy to train your body to expect peace daily.
How to protect your energy through boundaries
How to detach emotionally while honoring your humanity as a woman
How to build your confidence as a woman who went through a traumatic relationship
And many more…

Value: $500.

Phase 2: Identity Rebuilding

What you will discover in this phase will help you rediscover who you were before you entered that relationship.

A glimpse of what you will discover are:

Why his rejection, betrayal, or manipulation never defined your value and how to take your power back
The 6-word affirmation that rewires your self-worth in less than 60 seconds
The bold step that teaches your nervous system: “you no longer chase peace where I lose myself”
The voice note that reminds you: shrinking isn’t humility—it’s self-abandonment
A simple physical action that flips the “small girl” story in your mind forever
Rebuild your relationship with the mirror—without forcing self-love or fake positivity
How to create a boundary and learn the courage to actually keep it
Why “doing more” isn’t healing—and how rest can be your new rebellion
And many more…

Value: $500.

Phase 3: Life Restructuring

What you will discover in this phase will help you finally reclaim your future.

A glimpse of what you will discover are:

Why starting over doesn’t make you a failure.
The mirror ritual that silences shame and reminds you how far you’ve already come
A powerful list-making exercise to prove you’re already rebuilding (even if no one sees it yet)
The truth about routines—and the wrong belief people have about them
Create your own “anchor routine” in under 5 minutes and shift your energy daily
Why rhythm (not hustle) is the new proof of power as a woman
Give yourself permission to want more—without guilt, fear, or apology
Use this visual/mental exercise to reconnect with the woman you’re becoming.
And many more…

Value: $75

So here’s a recap of what you are getting when you get this Healing and Rebuilding Bundle TODAY:

Phase 1: Worth $100

Phase 2: Worth $100

Phase 3: Worth $75

In total, the worth of the Healing and Rebuilding Bundle that you are getting is $275.

But here’s the thing…

You are not going to pay that amount. You won’t even be paying half of that amount. Before I tell you the price…

Here are some BONUSES I decided to give you when you get this program today:

BONUS 1: The Printable Progress Tracker

You see, most women don’t quit healing because it’s not working.
They quit because they can’t see the progress.
The truth is, when you’re coming out of survival mode, healing feels slow… messy… and invisible.
That’s why I’m giving you this beautifully designed Printable Progress Tracker to help you see yourself rebuilding in real time.

Inside, you’ll track:

This isn’t just a tracker. It’s a mirror that says: 

“You’re not going in circles. You’re going forward.”

By the time you hit Day 21, you’ll look back and say,  “I did that. I showed up. I kept going.”
And that feeling? 

It’s what keeps you rebuilding long after the 21 days end.

You’ll get this bonus FREE when you grab The Healing & Rebuilding Bundle today.

VALUE: ~~$50~~

BONUS 2: Confidence Audio Pep Talks

Let’s face it… healing isn’t linear. One day, you feel strong. The next, you’re back in your head, questioning everything:

I have been there. That’s why I recorded these Confidence Audio Pep Talks—short, powerful, voice-note-style messages you can play anytime the shame creeps back in.

You’ll get 3 raw, heart-to-heart audios from me that speak into:

You don’t need another podcast. You need a sister in your ear.

Whether you’re driving, walking, crying in the bathroom, or just trying to hold it together in front of your kids— these audios were made to hold you together when everything feels like it’s falling apart.

You’ll want to keep these forever.

You’ll get this bonus FREE when you grab The Healing & Rebuilding Bundle today.

VALUE: ~~$200~~

BONUS 3: The Money Reset Mini-Guide

What’s healing without financial stability?

I suffered in my healing phase because I didn’t have enough money to take care of myself and my kids.
I didn’t just lose my relationship when I left.
I left my income, savings, and even financial security.
And this is probably the same thing with you.

That’s why I decided to create…

The Money Reset Mini-Guide—a gentle, trauma-informed tool to help you stop panicking about money and start feeling powerful with what you have.

Inside, you’ll track:

This isn’t about budgeting. It’s about making more money and multiplying what you have currently. 

It’s a financial recovery for women who are still healing.

You’ll get this bonus FREE when you grab The Healing & Rebuilding Bundle today.

VALUE: ~~$250~~

BONUS 4: Printable Affirmation Cards

After years of being ignored, insulted, or broken down…

You’ll get printable cards you can:

This bonus will help you rewrite the inner dialogue abuse tried to script into you—one sticky note at a time.

These affirmations are yours FREE when you say yes to The Healing & Rebuilding Bundle today.

You’ll get this bonus FREE when you grab The Healing & Rebuilding Bundle today.

VALUE: ~~$400~~

And that’s it for the bonuses.

Here’s the total BONUSES you are getting:

Total bonuses worth is $1000

So here’s everything you are getting:

The healing and rebuilding bundle (worth $275)
Total bonuses: $1,000

The total worth of what you are getting is: $1,275

Now, I know you are curious about the price.

Here is the thing, I won’t charge you the worth of this program. Because you are right here on this page… I won’t even charge you half the worth of everything you are getting. Which is going to be $637.5

Because you are here on this page.

You can grab all these for just

$1,275

$637.5

$50.

I can hear you say that’s too cheap.

Yes, it is…

And here’s why:

Now, that’s not all…

Because, I am sure this bundle is going to help you live again after that traumatic relationship.

I have decided to give you a…

FULL MONEY-BACK GUARANTEE

If you get this bundle today and go through everything inside—and you don’t see a change in your life after 21 days—  I will give you your money back. No questions asked.
I’ll even add an apology letter for wasting your time.
I’m doing this because I’m sure it will work for you.
It has worked for me and for other people I’ve shown it to.

Frequently asked questions:

1. What if I’ve already tried therapy, journaling, or other healing programs that didn’t work?

This bundle is different because it was created by someone who has been exactly where you are rebuilding emotionally, financially, and mentally after real-life abuse. It doesn’t give you theories, it gives you structure. No pressure, no fluff, just a clear and proven daily path forward.

2. I’m tired. What if I don’t have the energy to complete 21 days?

This bundle was made for women who feel exactly like that. You won’t need to do anything overwhelming. Most tasks take less than 10 minutes a day. And even if you only complete half of it, you’ll feel the shift. It’s not about perfection, it’s about gentle consistency.

3. What if I don’t feel strong enough to start?

You don’t need strength to begin, just honesty. This program meets you where you are in the mess, in the fog, in the “I don’t even know who I am anymore” moment. You can be broken and still show up. That alone is strength.

4. Will this work if I’ve been out of the relationship for a while but still feel stuck?

Yes. This bundle is not about timelines. Some women leave and move on fast, others carry trauma for years. If you’re still triggered, tired, unsure, or emotionally exhausted, this will help you get unstuck — gently and intentionally.

5. What makes this different from everything else out there?

Most healing advice is either too fluffy or too clinical. This was built by a woman who lived it through betrayal, motherhood, financial collapse, and emotional trauma. You’re not getting generic worksheets, you’re getting what actually helped her rebuild her identity, routine, money and self-worth.

6. I’m scared to feel it again. Will this open up wounds I can’t handle?

Healing is not about reliving trauma. It’s about creating safety in your body and space to move forward. This bundle teaches you to feel gently, not violently. Every day includes grounding rituals and affirmations to keep you steady, not spiraling.This bundle is different because it was created by someone who has been exactly where you are rebuilding emotionally, financially, and mentally after real-life abuse. It doesn’t give you theories, it gives you structure. No pressure, no fluff, just a clear and proven daily path forward.

7. I don’t want anyone to know I bought this. Is it private?

Yes. Everything is delivered digitally and privately. You can go through the material quietly, at your pace, with no one watching. This is your safe space to do this work for you.

8. Is this just about emotions, or will it help me with life too?

This isn’t just about emotions, it’s about life. Week 3 focuses on real rebuilding: parenting from peace, getting clarity around money, starting small routines, and visualizing the woman you’re becoming. You’ll come out with emotional strength and life structure.

9. What if I buy it and it’s not what I expected?

That’s completely fair. You’re covered by a money-back guarantee. If you complete the first few days and feel it’s not helping, email us and you’ll get a full refund, no questions, no guilt.

10. What if I can’t afford therapy will this still help me heal?

This bundle was created especially for women who don’t have access to therapy right now. It offers the structure, safety, and support of a guided healing experience — without the high price tag or weekly sessions. It’s not a replacement for therapy, but it’s a powerful bridge to emotional freedom.

Because I have lived it

The Moment That Shattered Me

How I Tried to Fix Him — And Lost Myself

The Final Straw

A New Beginning

(Even Though I Was Scared)

So I made a decision to fully heal:

I decided to help other women…

Jessica Monroe

Ashley Carter

Lauren Mitchell

Now, I want to help you too…

It doesn’t matter if:

If you go through the same system I went through…

If you go through the same system I went through…

Which is why I decided to package what I know works—

The Healing and Rebuilding Bundle

Who The Bundle is For?

Phase 1: Emotional Reset

Value: $500.

Phase 2: Identity Rebuilding

Value: $500.

Phase 3: Life Restructuring

Value: $75

BONUS 1: The Printable Progress Tracker

BONUS 2: Confidence Audio Pep Talks

BONUS 3: The Money Reset Mini-Guide

BONUS 4: Printable Affirmation Cards

So here’s everything you are getting:

$50.

Frequently asked questions:

1. What if I’ve already tried therapy, journaling, or other healing programs that didn’t work?

2. I’m tired. What if I don’t have the energy to complete 21 days?

3. What if I don’t feel strong enough to start?

4. Will this work if I’ve been out of the relationship for a while but still feel stuck?

5. What makes this different from everything else out there?

6. I’m scared to feel it again. Will this open up wounds I can’t handle?

7. I don’t want anyone to know I bought this. Is it private?

8. Is this just about emotions, or will it help me with life too?

9. What if I buy it and it’s not what I expected?

10. What if I can’t afford therapy will this still help me heal?